Have you found love in the clinic?

RE: Have you found love in the clinic?

David Mills — Thu, 29 Aug 2024 00:57:32 GMT

Never too late.

As they say the best way to get over someone is to get under/over someone else.

Nothing lost, nothing gained. Just ask her, what's the worst that could happen

Something like 60% of people meet their partners at work.

Balls to the wall and all that.

RE: Have you found love in the clinic?

Stigen — Tue, 13 Aug 2024 10:42:11 GMT

Not a happy ending. I did nothing. I don`t feel any interest from her toward me, and I have a high treshold to start something with a colleague. Also I should mention she is kinda my boss too,as she is both assistant and daily manager of clinic...so makes it more complicated. Also she is still extremely hung up on an ex, so I think even though she does check most my boxes I should abandon this idea, and continue being single, or looking for love in other venues(but NOT on bloody apps).

RE: Have you found love in the clinic?

Lisa Martin — Mon, 29 Jul 2024 11:14:29 GMT

Yes! Not in the clinic (I no longer work in practice) but in the veterinary-linked workplace.

A colleague that I got along with well asked me 'what I was going to do about dating' after my divorce, and I replied that at the time I could think of nothing worse than starting all over again, so would just concentrate on looking after the kids. After a couple of months and a few drinks, he left me a voicemail message to say that he liked me but was worried that I might not see him in the same way. He was lovely and it made sense to explore a relationship with someone that I already knew was good company and had shared interests with.

We are still very happy 5 years later!

Of course it's a little bit of a gamble, but if you don't try you won't know. Good luck Stigen, whatever path you follow with this.

RE: Have you found love in the clinic?

Ali Carter — Sat, 27 Jul 2024 21:45:58 GMT

Please can we have an update?! What did you do?!

RE: Have you found love in the clinic?

Anthony Dennison — Fri, 19 Jul 2024 15:26:58 GMT

I met my wife (Liverpool) when the Bristol Vet School rugby team went up to Liverpool on tour.

RE: Have you found love in the clinic?

Joyce Whitehead — Wed, 10 Jul 2024 13:26:09 GMT

My husband and I met at work. First job for both of us as new grads, different universities. I started earlier than he did at the practice and was slightly determined not to like him as all the nurses were taking the mick about me going out with the new vet. But we were friends and about 9 months later started to go out. I wasn’t keen for people to know for ages in case we broke up. But married 38 years next month and have worked together for most of that.

I’d put a slightly different spin in the telling you about dating. Is she hoping this will make you jealous and make you move? I would second Michael’s suggestion, offer a drink after work, or a pub quiz, or a concert and see what the reaction is.

RE: Have you found love in the clinic?

Arlo Guthrie — Mon, 08 Jul 2024 14:13:48 GMT

[quote userid="3169" url="~/f/non-clinical-questions/30988/have-you-found-love-in-the-clinic/245056#245056"]Then one month she couldn't afford the rent.....[/quote]

PMSL

RE: Have you found love in the clinic?

Michael Woodhouse — Mon, 08 Jul 2024 14:06:50 GMT

[quote userid="2100" url="~/f/non-clinical-questions/30988/have-you-found-love-in-the-clinic/245055#245055"]My wife was my housemate / tenant for many, many years before we ever became a thing.[/quote]

Then one month she couldn't afford the rent.....

[quote userid="3222" url="~/f/non-clinical-questions/30988/have-you-found-love-in-the-clinic"] Most likely I will not do anything, and just suffer in silence day to day as she tells me of the progression with this guy she met last week...[/quote]

If I were you, ask her if she would do something with you out of work. Have a spare ticket to a concert or something. Your mate dropped out or something. See how you get on out of work. She might also have feelings for you and you're both being soft about it. Have some beers and see what happens.

RE: Love in the clinic..

Arlo Guthrie — Mon, 08 Jul 2024 13:49:58 GMT

[quote userid="3222" url="~/f/non-clinical-questions/30988/love-in-the-clinic"]the reason I ask is because I recently started working for a new clinic, and I am crushing harder and harder on my nurse/assitant. [/quote]

I feel for you ... what torture to find yourself working in that situation.

Obviously don't have any in-clinic experience to draw upon, but can't help feeling that this:

[quote userid="3222" url="~/f/non-clinical-questions/30988/love-in-the-clinic"]last week she got a dating app, and has now gone on one date with a guy she likes, and is gonna meet again soon for a second date...[/quote]

doesn't bode well.

It would be a strange thing to share with you if the feeling was reciprocated.

But that doesn't mean she might not come to feel more.

My wife was my housemate / tenant for many, many years before we ever became a thing. I met her when she was 16, I think. She thought I was pretty ghastly at the time. Besides which, I was looking elsewhere. We didn't start going out until 15 years later and got married about 5 minutes after that!

Might it be an idea to ask her to join you for lunch (sooner, rather than later), where you can display your most colourful plumage without admitting anything (which could be extremely 'awks' if not reciprocated).

If you both seem to be having fun, repeat.

By the third or fourth time things may be clearer.

RE: Love in the clinic..

Beats — Sat, 06 Jul 2024 20:40:15 GMT

I never had any intention to initiate a relationship with a work colleague, but a co-worker gave me a train timetable on her last day in a workplace we were both in, I went to visit her intending to check she was settling in OK in a new location after a couple of weekends and basically got jealous that she might meet a nice man in her new location and asked her out instead.

Having been married for a long time now, I can confirm that it was wholly out of character for her to make such a bold move as to give me a train timetable. I can also confirm that she massively pities anyone who has to work with me and would never ever consider working with me again.

Perhaps see if you still feel the same in a year, then leave your job to locate to a remote part of the Scottish Highlands and give her a train timetable to visit?