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Julian Earl — Wed, 31 Aug 2022 17:27:42 GMT

Thanks again GrooveJet, Certainly the wionders of animals generally does tend to lift my spirit! this love and interest is simply tthe reason that I decided I wanted to be a Vet when I was aged just 8-10 years old! Theonly person who I really knewworkingwith animals wasthe vet for our family dog, "JET" so I wanted to hisjob when I grw up I decided and nevr let go of that idea.. Luckily succeeding in my ream. Idd get a weekend job with im when aged from 13to 16and worked full-time, or at least 8.30am to 7pm Monday oFriday for the esar before starting University in 1976. I used things that Ileartn thre every single day of my career! Sadly He, Mr E.R.Moore in Leeds, took his own life way back in about 1995 or sio aged 70 when his wife had just died due to breast cancer I believe the cause. He was quite fearsome as booss but very, very knowledgeable and an excellent surgeon fro what I could see! So I cannot really hank him now for his positiveeffect on my career. Most notably as I've just been reinded by the fact that when I achieved Grades of j"ust" B, B , AND C one grade short of the 3 x Bs neededfior immediate acceptance at Liverpool, he wrote to thenm and I soon received an Unconditional entry-offer for the folowing yer instead rather than re-sitting the horribkle Physics A-level exam chasing a higher grade! nUnless ewrote to Liverpool saying Please just get this lad off my hands?? I caanot cope with him anymore!!I certainly learnt how to handle dogs and cats, how to apply a muzzle, liftthem properly andalso one key skill howto give a cat a tablert! I really showed cat owers thecorrect method every single day!! Then one evening ion about 1997 the Practice had an open evening so my Personal Show-piece was to demonstrate this technique to a large crow iof visitorsforthe eveig. I had our Practice Cat one we recued, called Laurence as my "dummy-patient"He was okay friendliness-wie but never a lap cat etc. and coulsd resist ifhe felt that way. So there Iw as Laurence on theConsulting table me holding him, stroken him, chatting to all of ou guests for theevening, maybe50 or more. I held Laurence, explained hat Iwas doing to the audience not so much to aurence, tipped his head back opened hismouth and in went the B12 tablet! I releaed hishead as isusual, he closed his mouthas expected then immediately coughed and spat the tableton the floorat the feet of in andfront of all the visitors!! At least it gave me another chance todemonstrate the simple [ to me!] technique, this time with 100% success!I do describe this in detail in my ook Cows In Trees!

Thanks for reading!

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Julian Earl — Wed, 31 Aug 2022 16:28:54 GMT

[quote userid="8858" url="~/001/nonclinical/f/off-duty-discussions/30381/asking-for-help-please/238899#238899"]he best for your surgery tomorrow Julian.[/quote]

Thank you very much Jill.Tomorrow is admission-day, and the surgery on Friday we expect.I am very conident in Gerry's skillsbut just hope his expectation of very short stay..., 2-3dm ays will prove accurateI'll surelyget back on this site s soon s can get home again. For Any nasy surprises and my wife can access my e-mail notificationsand hence She site itself... coul olet everyone know. She My wife is AniIka, with an "i" the Swedish version of thename with an "i"not lan "e"ike the Ms Rice on TV;with Anneka"! Anyway, Annika is vey, very V vettig, ...; the Swedish word for sensible, qiuite appropriarte for this notification and circumstances I think, as it happens?!!She is a well-qualified Veterinary Nurae so Arlo should not need to ban her or to throw her off thesite asa a intruder!! Thjank you again Jill, this all means a lot to me!!

Julian xxx

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Julie Innes — Wed, 31 Aug 2022 16:24:14 GMT

Good luck tomorrow, Julian! Be thinking about you!

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Jill Butterworth — Wed, 31 Aug 2022 09:29:38 GMT

All the best for your surgery tomorrow Julian.

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Julian Earl — Tue, 30 Aug 2022 11:56:35 GMT

[quote userid="10320" url="~/001/nonclinical/f/off-duty-discussions/30381/asking-for-help-please/238889#238889"]lease keep posting on here if we can provide any useful help/ distraction...[/quote]

Thank you Lucy, I certainly intend to! They cannot shut me up that easily! whoever "they "might be?? I have a plan that on arrival /I'll speak to Paul the Ward Manager or his replacement as the case may be!OPE totry to follow the good suggestion on here of making friends with the Nurses as soon as I arrive. I'm hoping a big cake will do the job? Ideally cooked by my wife otherwise one of slightly less good quality purchased at the local Baker's! That should do it..., surely? It should not be necessary really tough..., shold it??

Thank you for all of the good Wishes, they count for a lot!

I'll ytry to check in herebefore adnmission on Rthursday then it won't be until Saturday at the earliest I'm sure!I do look forward to geting home again ASAP in orderto get on vetsurgeon again for one thing!

TTFN!

xxxJulian

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Lucy Fleming — Tue, 30 Aug 2022 11:35:46 GMT

Glad to hear you don't have long to wait, Julian, though I was sorry to see on the other thread you posted that the upcoming hospital stay is causing you anxiety for different reasons. I wish you all the best with both the run-up, the procedure itself, and your (ongoing) recovery, please keep posting on here if we can provide any useful help/ distraction...

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Julian Earl — Fri, 26 Aug 2022 08:06:39 GMT

good Morning George and everyone..., I do not think hat I could be accused of being an Imposter?? To this day, I till feel shocked y the severity of my original injuries. to have my consiultan tGerry O'Reilly tell me that I inspire him and can help other patients with my history isvery uplifting. I picked up my own own personal motto for mypost-accident battles from\tv at some time: il |Desperandum! ~Never Desair! i I do try to remind myself of that any time I am feeling low. Gerry een told me that I shouldwrite a book about my cycling history and how it lead to and from my crash as it were. I know where that tale starts ;learning to cycle as a kid on mylittle red bicycle around our garden and I know how it fiishes, ht being where I am now; racing at a National level albeit as a Para-cyclist\! It is the bit in themiddle that's proving challenging so far! Watch this Space?

There is a very important rule in racing nowdays... NoHelmet = No Race!!For good and obviousreasons!!Back when I started we just had the foam-rubber typre hairnet helmets that wereno real protection at all. Atleast now, as I've shown these thickpolystyrene ones do offer real impact-protection! ver theyears Ihad been moreworried about broken arms andlegs in a crash stpping meboth Vetting and riding for the duration! A head-injury never really toubled me. Strange p[erhaps but that as it ...

thank you again. Apologies because Ithink I am starting to waffle All Kind Wishes are gratefuly accepted. Last Night I was waking with nightmares, a recurentproblem ever since 2012 in fat! NowI dr of bad things in the family. Heaven forbid that, then Iwould truly be lost!!

Back later this morning I'm sure.

Edited here: Jusyt checking on this If Iam an apostheosis of Imposter's Syndrome are you not saying that i nm i fact a fraud?? I didn'think so until I doublec-hecked the itera meanig of theword??Surely I'vemisuderstood you here?? Thanks!! I thoughtI hadanewfriend/supporter here George until I translated it to me an that I am a pwrfect example of Impostor sndrome??!Or have I wildly misunderstood? Sorry if so!

Julian

Julian.

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George Cooper — Thu, 25 Aug 2022 22:16:03 GMT

you are the apotheosis of imposterism!?? (This was a longer reply but I pressed the wrong tit!!)Julian, given the trauma you’ve been through and the various outcomes experienced, the fact that you are still contributing wholesale to the threads on VetSurgeon, do you not think that Imposter’s Syndrome notwithstanding you’d be held aloft as the apotheosis

keep in touch, ok???

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Julian Earl — Thu, 25 Aug 2022 18:40:12 GMT

hank you very, very much George. Thatis another very touching post on thi site for me to reflect on. I not sure Ideserve the praise! I a still incontact with my former boss David Greenhalgh for ew hwom I worked in Burnley from 982 to 1989. I have thanked him recently, ot for the first tme or building such a friendly practice that the staff there from thosedays are till veryclose and good friends, i.e. meaning supportive of me ! I actually joked with David that, Oh I must haveat least donesomething right that searly stage of my career to tstill have dear friends, both colleagues such as the nurses, receptionist David and his wife as wll, after all these years/ At risk of basting he lkesto compliment me on the work that I did for him there around East Lancashire. Plus and Likewise I am still good friends with a lot of the farmers in that aea, those still with us after all these years!

Perhaps I did ot completely waste my five years as a student in Liverpool aferb rall??My very first boss in Preston was a good example of how not to treat new graduates!! A bully, ever-critical, telling me that my mehods taught at Liverpool ere always wrong but never offered to step in anme out with a tricky operation eg my first intussuscption or similar..I cannot speak ill of the dead but was very glad to move away to David’s practice within 6-9 months!

Thank you agani George, supportive messages like help keep me going as I battle my depression, so Yours Very , Sincerely

Julin Earl AVP-status , [ SHP, WELl], MRCVS.

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George Cooper — Thu, 25 Aug 2022 18:10:57 GMT

whilst unfortunately not in a position to create a series of meetings and talks for you, I would still wish to encourage you to keep us in the loop (loup?) about your health, your mental state, and your needs. You have shown us all how powerful it is to create a genuine "cry for help", and how inspiriting it is to witness the responses from supportive professionals. That should read "inspiring", of course, something we are usually crap at as veterinary individuals.

You, Julian, have been a talisman for asking for support and I hope that even the most cynical of readers on here are persuaded of the benefits from asking. I will confess to being one of those who would "hide" any such need, and who suffered hugely by that subterfuge, which, quite simply, merely caused heartache for my closest family.

Thank you Julian - for your undoubted bravery

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Julian Earl — Thu, 25 Aug 2022 15:10:06 GMT

In Fact Can I hererepeat my offer to anybodywhomight be interested that it proves very therapeutic for me to share my presentation Cows In Trees And Other Storis so am willing to travl to give this talk.Ihavegiven it as after-dinner speaker at heep Veterinary Society in 2018I think the year soit is suitable for a veterinary afdience as ell as the gneral Public. Icansay categoricalyand absolutely tht I guranteea lot of laughter and amusement at my misfortunes! When asked how the cow gotthere, I try to explainabout the Lancashire breed building Nests or elsetet parachuting! But no-one believes me!! Go Figure! It is nota Book-sellig Presentation it is purelyone for amusement and entertamemnt taking about 50-60 minuts. Note thetitle is pural! I mut have missed ur lecture at Livrpool dealing with this dilemma!My tals include the 20cm tarantula ith he broken leg, the3.5 metres BoaConstrictorunexpetedly pegnant and the totoiseaged 40 years with theame problem, the my ldest patient aged96years witha "Birth Certificate!" And soOn. If speaking i Cornwall or Aberdeen might ask orsome ravelcosts but otherwisey reward id all thelaughter!! PPM if you might be interested... Thank ou, Julian.

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Julian Earl — Thu, 25 Aug 2022 14:52:33 GMT

Thank youKindly Gillian, though thetruth is I hhope that luck has nothingto do wiith it!!I'd like to coin-tossing decisions etc. to be involved!! i do understand our sentiment though really!!

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Gillian Mostyn — Thu, 25 Aug 2022 14:10:20 GMT

The best of luck for your surgery Julian.

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Julian Earl — Thu, 25 Aug 2022 11:10:46 GMT

[quote userid="8858" url="~/001/nonclinical/f/off-duty-discussions/30381/asking-for-help-please/238824#238824"]That's great news Julian. All the best and hope you will be feeling much better soon, you are in very good hands xx[/quote]

tha is all absolutely true Jo;; thank you. Nobody volunteers for brain srgerybut I am really very keen to get in andhave itoverand done with. When I was last in for aa few days, 2015 i hink it was even the tea-lady rembered me for dsome reaon!OhHello..., Whitr, No sugar isn't it?/"\yep, that is correct!If she is still here, ;et's sewew fse can till remember?? My cips of tea..., a High Priority of course!!

Thank you agan... this is a very caring website!!

Julian

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Jill Butterworth — Thu, 25 Aug 2022 10:17:00 GMT

That's great news Julian. All the best and hope you will be feeling much better soon, you are in very good hands xx

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Julian Earl — Wed, 24 Aug 2022 21:21:33 GMT

Hi Lucy, Ou have PM now about myoperation date as I cannot post it on an open forum yet but in short I only hsave a few days to wait now before Gerry gets to l get unside my skullagain. If heis optimistic, which he always is...!hen so am I . I have to absolutely trust and hae utter faith in his skills and judgement. 'll report back wih details on the open forum whenI am discharged, hopefully about the4th/5th September if all goes to schedule! Yhank you for your very kind wishes of course!

Julian

xxxx

Editedlater for my lousy typing... sorry!

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Lucy Fleming — Wed, 24 Aug 2022 08:09:42 GMT

I hope you've been having some better days recently Julian, and that perhaps you might have had some news about your op date.

In terms of distraction from lower-level anxiety, I find things like podcasts or occasionally audiobooks good as a distraction when I can't quite settle to anything else. I'm not great at audiobooks as my mind tends to "wander off" but a shorter podcast is a bit easier. One of my favourites is the BBC history podcast "You're Dead To Me". My other favourite (All Killa No Filla) is about serial killers, albeit an irreverant look at them, with very, very many off-topic tangents, but might not be exactly what you are looking for if the world is feeling a bit dark sometimes.

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Joyce Whitehead — Sun, 21 Aug 2022 23:07:48 GMT

And here is our local one flying over the garden.

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Jill Butterworth — Sun, 21 Aug 2022 18:50:41 GMT

They are beautiful when they come down and you can see the wings spread out like this.

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Julian Earl — Sun, 21 Aug 2022 16:45:18 GMT

Sory I'll stop here but Ijust adore these creatures!! As they helpme battle MY Depression and awful thoughts!!

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Julian Earl — Sun, 21 Aug 2022 16:43:37 GMT

And another!!

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Julian Earl — Sun, 21 Aug 2022 16:40:22 GMT

Here is one of "ours!!

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Julian Earl — Mon, 08 Aug 2022 19:12:34 GMT

[quote userid="11901" url="~/001/nonclinical/f/off-duty-discussions/30381/asking-for-help-please/238550#238550"] used to work in Louth, live in Tetford, but moved to the West midlands a decade ago. I really wish I’d met you in person back then! [/quote]

Thank you GrooveJet for that lovely reply. You may well know Oxcombe then? We are about 4 miles as the Kite/Buzard/Crow etc flies from Tetford along the Heath Road. I had a number of clients there mostly eith beef and sheep or else horsey-clients. In Louth we have some very good friends plus our[ our = my wife's really] shopping area though the most important place ther forme e is Louth Cycle Centre who built my bike up via modifications for meto race nowadaysas a Para-cyclit. They invariably do go out of their way to help me when necessary.BRAVO Louth Cycle Centre I say!!!

tay safe and well Groove..If you revisit the area you are more than welcome to visit Oxcombe!!

Julian Earl xx

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Miriam Lodewyks — Mon, 08 Aug 2022 12:46:52 GMT

I used to work in Louth, live in Tetford, but moved to the West midlands a decade ago. I really wish I’d met you in person back then!

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Julian Earl — Mon, 08 Aug 2022 12:02:15 GMT

[quote userid="8858" url="~/001/nonclinical/f/off-duty-discussions/30381/asking-for-help-please/238524#238524"]Hi Julian, how about getting into wildlife gardening? I find the goings on in our garden very entertaining, we have regular regular visitors and we set things up for them and make sure they have enough water etc. Is your garden being enough for a couple of pet sheep??[/quote]

Hello again /Gill, My wife is the gardener so i cannot intrude on her hobby/pastime if you don't mind? We do try to encourage wildlife, those not scared off by Wiggo the Cat ourMaine-Coone cross who is quite a keen hunter of course. He manages to get mice and voles through his Cat Flap easily plus the poor bunnies he takes even a 30cm stoat on one occasion. Then as I've noted already, the single big excitement for me outsde are our Red Kites when they deign to come closeto the cottage Nice to see them 1/2 mile away and a few hundred metres high but lower/closer is the thrill!! An Occasional aparrowhaWk, for eg., hasing the Green Woodpecker can be exciting as well. But Apart from Kites the most excting raptor in this valley was tamidst a swarm of Martins, swallows and swifts as I was relaxing on our patio in he sunshine, thinking, Wow, thatis a big Swift!! Which of course it asn't it was a Hobby, a long way from their normal home in Dorset or Hampshire. But they have been seen a lot in Lincs, jut not by me. We do have a Peregrine nesting nearby on Louth Church Spire, quite well-known around here. Not as exciting as he Hobby though! Lincs has had the Sea Eagle a couple of years ago as well that passed through here!! Do these all count as Wildlife Gardenening?/ Well experiencing wildlife from our garden..! My love of wildlife led me to wanting to be a vet many, many ears ago!

We already have t three sheep borrowed from Ian Heidi, friends in jSheep Vet Society, living near the Humber north of here Thanks...,

Thank you yet again for your help and adviice!

Julian E... xxx